You’ve been asked to give a wedding speech. Of course you agreed, you love them and are so happy to be a part of their special day. The problem? You’d rather chew off your own arm than stand up in front of a group of people and speak from the heart.

Firstly, you’re not alone, we see many speech givers with the same worries and we’ve filmed enough weddings to know a thing or two about speeches, so here’s our top tips on how to give the best wedding speech ever!

cheers with champagne, how to give the best wedding speech ever

1. Write your speech down, don’t come up with it on the spot. Unless you’re in the business of stand up comedy or improv, just write it down. You can have a draft copy as you add/remove bits whilst you’re writing your speech. 

2. Print out your speech on nice paper for the wedding day. Pulling a piece of scrap, crumpled paper out of your pocket really makes you look like you’ve half assed it (even if you haven’t!). So even if you’re feeling a bit nervous, people will notice you’ve taken the time to prepare for this moment.


(Don’t read it off of your phone either – it’s fine to keep a spare copy on there for practicing etc but this just looks awkward and as if you’ve found it on the internet.) *Make sure the font is easy to read & large enough so when you glance at it you aren’t squinting and pulling the paper up in front of your face. 

3. Practice, practice, then practice some more. Don’t let the first time you read your finalised speech be on the wedding day – remember you want this to be the best wedding speech ever! You don’t want to look as if you are reading it straight off of the sheet of paper. It might be cute when children do it in the school nativity but trust me, it’s far less endearing when grown adults do it. 

4. Get used to the sound of your own voice. Stop thinking it sounds weird, you are you. Own it. No one else cares what you sound like, they’re just listening to your words and hoping it doesn’t go on too long so they can carry on with their food.

5. Time how long you take reading your speech (aim for a maximum of 5 minutes) – between 3 & 5 minutes is that sweet spot – but this depends on how many speeches your couple are having – we think any more than 15 minutes total becomes tiresome to the guests.

6. Record yourself reading your speech, listen to it frequently until it becomes second nature and you know what you’re planning on saying – that way, your crisp piece of paper/card will merely be for reference.

7. If you really think you can’t say much without getting nervous – don’t! Your couple wouldn’t want you feeling stressed or awkward, but it would mean the world to them if you said a few words. Mention how amazing the day’s been – how awesome the couple are, how you love them & are proud of them & then raise a glass to toast! Less is more.


Finally, enjoy it! I know this may sound crazy, but you actually can learn to have fun with it! Deep breath, you’ve got this. In years to come people will remember your speech as the best wedding speech ever!  

P.S. If you’re planning your wedding and you won’t be giving a speech (but are secretly getting panicky about wanting the speeches to go perfectly on your big day – read our tips on how to get the best wedding speech ever!